Age Matters! Women — We Have a Sex Drive, Too!

Leonardo DiCaprio's Girlfriend Camila Morrone Says She Isn't Bothered by Their 23-Year Age Gap
Leonardo DiCaprio and Camila Morrone

The 23 years between Leonardo DiCaprio (45) and Camila Morrone (22) has spread like wild fire. She explains the “May to December” (an expression to describe relationships meaning May is younger {in the spring of life} and December is older {in the winter of life}) romance is fine. “I don’t understand the criticism received about our age difference. It’s nothing new, and age … it’s nothing but a number,” she explains in an interview with Los Angeles Times.

Since yesterday’s posting I wondered why it was more common with men than women. Did it really make that much of a difference. In personal talks with different couples over the years I learned that an older man tended to look for younger women for various reasons such as: virility, child bearing, inheritance, the appearance, ego, and she can take care of him. The list goes on, however, these few were jaw-dropping within itself.

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We as women have a sex drive too! It matters who is on our arm and we want a man who will take care of us. Maybe not as defined by men but we, too, seek for someone who will, in the long run, be able to satisfy our persons’ as well. This all, considering, seems rather sexist. But maybe that’s the underlining point.

Men Confess: 22 reasons why younger guys fall for older women

By Felicia Brings and Susan Winter

“Aquaman” actor Jason Momoa, 40, still blushes when he talks about his wife, actress Lisa Bonet, 51.

The star, who is on the shortlist for People magazine’s “Sexiest Man Alive 2019” title, called her “literally my childhood crush” and “dream girl” in a recent interview with Esquire.

Jason Momoa and Lisa Bonet
Jason Momoa and Lisa Bonet

“If someone says something isn’t possible,” Momoa said, “I’m like, ‘Listen here, I married Lisa Bonet. Anything is [expletive] possible.'”

It still seems more common for men to seek out younger women, but one of TODAY’s most-read stories continues to be this post on why younger men fall for older women. We’ve celebrated the long-term relationships between actor Hugh Jackman, who is 13 years younger than wife Deborra-Lee Furness. Then there’s French President Emmanuel Macron, 41, and his 66-year-old wife Brigitte. Macron has said the criticism of his marriage stems from sexism.

But it’s not only younger famous men who understand the attraction to mature women.

In “Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance,” authors Felicia Brings and Susan Winter interviewed more than 200 men to discover the allure of the so-called “Mrs. Robinson syndrome.” You’ll be surprised at what men find appealing about older women.

“I’d do it again? Definitely, no question. Oh yeah, and once you’ve done it, you definitely look at older women in another way.”—Nick, 33

We’ve made our position known and shared the thoughts and experiences of the women to whom we talked. Now it’s time to let the men speak for themselves. One important question we asked was what they felt an older woman has to offer. Here are some answers which are clear, articulate and to the point. Their sentiments represent a very large proportion of the opinions we heard expressed.

Check out these interviews …

https://www.today.com/health/men-confess-22-reasons-why-younger-guys-fall-older-women-t74731

In the end … it is two mature people coming together to make something work. Relationships are hard work and if one is not on board it won’t work regardless of the difference in age or gender!

Emotional Pain, Addiction: SPEAK!

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This epidemic of drug use to cover our pain is astonishing and that’s putting it lightly! Upon Monday’s blog I came across Austin Eubanks speech. He was, too, a victim who survived the shooting at Columbine High School. He said he played dead while lying in a pool of blood that was his and his best friend’s who did not make it.

There are many things that can be discussed about shootings, bullying, etc., yet, I’d like to address that inner pain. The pain that is without sound. It leaves me to wonder … what causes us to stop being audible and turn to, such things as, drugs, sex, violence, suicide, etc.? Why don’t we speak our truth? Do we feel/believe we are unworthy? That the inner pain we’re feeling will just pass on its own with no need of counsel; if we keep silent it will just go away?

Do we become naive to it? What in the world is going on that we take away our own voice?

Have you ever dealt with that person who bleeds …. constantly?! I’ve talked about this before. This person’s bleed is that of constant bringing up the pain but with no willingness to be healed from it. Everyone has a right to voice their pain! EVERYONE! If someone tried to shut you up … SHUT THEM UP!!! It is just advised to not bleed on people. Don’t make your pain your being, your importance … your life!

This voice in the pit of your very soul is screaming to be heard. It can’t take anymore. I would be honored to be your eyes and/or! Yes, you’re eyes and/or ear! It’s what you need! It’s not about judgment. It’s about someone taking the time to be able to talk! Speak! Heal from what has been hurting for, God knows, how long!

There’s a show called Iyanla: Fix My Life. She’s a life coach who guide people through their pain. She recently showed an episode where 5 children were abused emotionally and physically. 4 out of the 5 were put in foster care while one lived with the grandmother. The 4 suffered having to render sex on each other just to eat! They were beaten with pots, pans. One used to get hit with a crock pot; he now suffers epileptic seizures. The eldest son used to be taken into the basement, beaten until he agreed to do oral sex on his siblings … all just to have a decent meal! Wow!!!!!

The 4 were jealous of the one who got the chance to live with the grandmother; they felt she got the chance to escape the ineffable. Unfortunately, the story came out that she, too was sexually abused! This family is that of 3 boys and 2 girls. Their Mother was a crack addict. She, later, wanted to go before Iyanla so that she could build a relationship with her children. Her story wound up being similar to her children’s. What a tragic story!

So, here we are again! In dire need of a voice!

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As I searched for depictions Mr. Trump (yes, respectfully Mr.) popped up. Why was I shocked? I guess, in a way, he is trying to take away people’s voice. Is taking away a person’s choice the same? Sorry, I’m not trying to be funny or play as though I’m naive. It’s truly a question. Hmmm, I guess taking away a person’s right to choose is taking away their voice. My Mom was talking about him a couple of days ago. She was upset because gas prices have skyrocketed. It was nice to see the prices go down. Like a “Whew” moment (lol), but here we are again — paying $85 a gallon (LMBO). I know it’s exaggerated, yet you all know me when it comes to certain topics. Exaggeration and Mr. Trump go hand and hand like an animal to its dung.

I hope to be an encouragement to you, again, reflecting a light of God, perspective and hope! This, hopefully, encourages you to speak your pain ….

Into Me …

Confession’s Pathway …
Intimacy
Beginning to see just how personal it can become
For some it’s defined as sexual; for others a deep affection
One would have to recon pending its concession
The behavior of this feeling or action should be carefully assessed
Addressed with finesse
Hungry for the touch of a person’s attention starts with the mention
Pretense of the echoed agenda quiets the receiver
While the silence of the heart bellows the believer
Deceiver?
No!
Seems confusing? Yes, it is
It’s the whiz of the definer’s challenge
When our personal reaches the closet of vulnerability
We shield its fragility
Gauging in a world with constant disappointment can disjoint anyone
Everyone wants to be the “some” who appears to have it “altogether”
Rather or not this be true
The seeming is that “they can do”
Affection is love and can be expressed in the act of sex
Not to be complex but to always respect its context
Life is the culmination of delicacy
And we are the catalyst of another’s “Into Me" you see

 

By Katherine Matthews