The “Observer” — You Get To Decide If “I” Fit?

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Alluring eyes! Well sculpted body! Pleasing full lips … round and a round we go and where it stops no one really knows. Beauty in the eye of the beholder is how it goes. “How do you know what I see unless you can see out my eyes?” a popular line in the movie Driving Miss Daisy said it all. What we find to be attractive varies. So why do magazines, TV and various other advertisements/social settings decide what is seen as beautiful?

The “observer,” in this case, is a personal assessment. There are too many appeals in the world to narrow it down. So then, I guess, I’ve just learned what it takes to become successful is to realize and ACCEPT what is popular. Be someone I’m not and go with the flow to fit in with everyone else. I mean … that is the way of fitting in and acquiring readers, fans, social acceptance, right?!

This blog has taken a turn. I had something else in mind but the idea began to plague me as I typed. We are encouraged to be who we are, yet, we are also encouraged to be what fits into societies norm. Why is that? Becoming a professional person requires etiquette, self grooming and being able to communicate clearly. If you don’t fit the requirements you, likely, won’t be invited to the setting.

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A woman took issue with a situation not really delicate, in my opinion, but I guess I can kind of see her side. Let’s say the scenario is President Obama is in town and he’s passing through. He is noted to be approachable; full of grace and charm. The woman, noting such attributes, invites him to her house but someone tells her it is inappropriate. She’s troubled. She questions why. She’s then told that he cannot attend because of who he is. He has a reputation to uphold and going to her home would not be befitting to who he is. Dang! That’s hard! She would think “Am I not good enough for him to enter my home?” In a way, yes. But it’s not if you’re good or bad enough — so what is proper?

I’m interested to know what you think. Why is it this way? It’s like I can understand but it hasn’t reached full understanding. Please, why is it this way?