Hmm, Does Being Able to Question Maturity Make You Mature?

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"Questionable Maturity" means masked?
Hidden through tasks?
Appeared intelligence; consideration
Resulted devastation 'cause the truth far from the scene
Selfishness's glean
Look beyond
What is spawned is someone else
Shelf yourself
Delve into what it means 
Maybe you're a follower's King
Taking and being lead is sacrifice
It's part of what was and is Christ
Coming into full growth is a golden opportunity
But, first, one must realize the "Questionable Maturity"

A Thought by Katherine Matthews

Please, tell me your thoughts — Does this statement about maturity ring true? Many question a person’s maturity but without sufficient amount of information; usually done with a certain amount of arrogance. I wonder … I’m up to questioning something’s maturity based off their tended responses. Is the answer conclusive or should I dig deeper?!

By all means …. share

If At First You Don’t Succeed — Did You Even Try?

A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. - Albert Einstein
What is a mistake?
An action or judgment that is misguided or wrong
Who wants to do that?
Folk want to be right all the time
Is there something wrong with such a concept?
We should be right
But what if we are left?
Left with the concept that our wrong was right because we switched the two
Confused?
Great!!
If not, even better
It is better to right a wrong than to never have erred before
For the errors we make are the lessons needed for growth
But what's more scary ....
"To error is human"
The last time I checked ... NONE of us our God

A Thought by Katherine Matthews

Blog Fridays: Venting #5. A Work in Process

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As I scroll through looking for depiction to paint “venting’s” message I discover its hollow presence. What context did this person to the left have when stating a person is immature if they vent every feeling? That’s empty wouldn’t you agree? It’s like saying don’t drive your car if you only have a 1/4 left of gas. Wouldn’t the thing be to go to the gas station and fill it back up? Just ridiculous.

Maybe her take was the “every feeling” part. Can it become unwise to a certain degree? Oh, yes, absolutely. However, as I stated in day 4, you have to pick someone you trust. It is an outcry. Since God is my, first, go to person I let Him know, “Hey, I’m not feeling this at all!” When I am expressing these feelings I am respectful realizing who I’m talking to. I consider what and how I’m expressing. I realize He deserves my respect because He’s the sovereign Lord. And then, as the scriptures states “Come boldly to the throne of grace to obtain mercy, and find grace to help in the time of need.” (Hebrews 4:16). I dare not lie acting like whatever is going on doesn’t exist and it’s merely something small. I don’t think so! God is my Father and I am His child. He allows me to come to Him about everything (Proverbs 3:6 … In ALL your ways acknowledge Him …”) this is regardless of the answer He gives. No. I don’t always like His answer but He helps me understand why it must be that answer!

My personality is kindhearted rough around the edges, work in progress to become and be more a gentle humble spirit who seeks health to the body and soul of others and for myself. That’s where venting comes in. I know I need help. My problem in the past was that I held everything in too long and the result could have been fatal. Yes! Fatal! I remember posting last week that we all have the capacity to kill. There is something that can trigger this emotion. I work at that not being a reality. It is advised that we all do the same!

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In a nutshell … we all are a work in progress! This depiction which states, “Healing comes from taking responsibility; to realize that it is you — and no one else — that creates your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions.” It is, principally, that we be aware of it all. Well, all that we can take in. Paying attention is key when handling situations. Did you notice that as we grow the lessons become harder? Supposed to! They are tools for growth; stretching us toward maturity.

Enjoy the wealth of your vents as you move toward the serenity of contentment!

The Triangle Love Affair

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Which way to turn…

My mind is sort of here and there in the reminisce of the past and what is today. It engages the circumstances of the relationships I faced over the past couple of years. (Chuckle) A slight exaggeration in the “couple” of years part. More like over 10! Dang, that’s a long time. That’s over a decade being in and out of relationships that I didn’t want to end but had no choice. I’m sure you, like me, wished some situations would have survived the brutal tide that not only crashed against the enormous mountain but knocked it into the abyss of the sea. It bothers me when people are so quick to jump to the conclusion “When you look back it was for the best.” That, truthfully, gets on my nerve. I’m not saying it bares no truth. I’m saying that folks should understand individuals NEED to SOBERLY assess these relationships. No, there’s likely not going to be a full awareness of why the other person made his or her decision, however, the assessment will bring you to a point of peace and maturity!

My first love! Boy, boy, boy … he was something else! I had never felt that way about anyone. It was more than butterflies in mere thought of him. It was heart racing in wishful “Oh God, I want to marry him,” type thing! We dated for several years, but he never would allow himself to be completely in the relationship. Just in case — this is when the individual is with you but has one foot in and out kinda thing. He eventually broke it off stating it was more than he could handle. I’m trying to sum it up as he just wasn’t ready to commit (marriage) but it was a little bit more than that. Yeah, I’m crazy! I used to apologize to him {time to time} because I was more involved than he was. The apology would come because I didn’t want to ever come across as though I was trying to pressure him and, I admit, my insecurities had been … ridiculous (lol)! No person can bear another’s insecurities. It is something every individual must work through on their own.

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Seeing blindly

This same guy, a few years later, got married! I guess he found what he was looking for. It broke my heart but what could I do? Nothing. No, not true. I could, and I did, respect his decision. Since I lived through that situation I was able to share with a friend (who became like a little sister) the experience and what I learned. So, that’s it: what did I learn? ….

Several months ago I found some of the instant message conversations we had that I had printed out. IM or instant message was during AOL days so we’re talking many moons ago (lol). In one of those conversations he wound up saying: “Why would I settle when I can have somebody better?” Ouch! Enough said, right?! So, the lesson I learned is no matter what higher power (God) may try to advise us; no matter what we know to be true it will come down to that one decision and it will make or break us in the end. I’m still discovering who I am. The reminisce of today is — I am still discovering. The reveal always takes time! Sometimes it takes years upon years. I can’t be disgruntle (though I have been frustrated throughout the journey–lol) with the process. I must embrace my truth … I am becoming the best version of myself beyond what I will ever understand.

Thanksgiving is mind-blowing

Romans 8:26-28 AMP … “In the same way the Spirit [comes to us and] helps us in our weakness. We do not know what prayer to offer or how to offer it as we should, but the Spirit Himself [knows our need and at the right time] intercedes on our behalf with sighs and groanings too deep for words. And He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is, because the Spirit intercedes [before God] on behalf of God’s people in accordance with God’s will. And we know [with great confidence] that God [who is deeply concerned about us] causes all things to work together [as a plan] for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose.

And though THAT one decided to go away … I can thank God He decided to stay!