This great expression should be taught all over the world. So many people need to realize that sometimes “When you want to say something – don’t use your mouth” is the way to go!
What do you do when that loved one, be it a family member or friend, believe they know what’s best for you and your life? When they say things to hurt you on purpose. And, according to them, they say it to … “help you out!”
Can you believe this?!
I decided to do a little research on the top because I’ve had this happen to me throughout the years. I’ve even tried to help others who have suffered similar acts. What can you do or say to a loved one when they believe they know what’s best? You see, I don’t have this notion that hurting them back is always the solution. Take careful note! I said “always”. This is an essential notation because sometimes you will hurt them, but I believe this will stem when you stand up for yourself. I was not referring to choose the most degrading thing you can think of to shatter them! HELL TO THE NO!! Yes, it’s true. If they love you then why would they hurt you intentionally or believe they know every nook and cranny of your life? I’m not sure of this answer. I’m still working through things myself. My Dad believes a part of it is fear. Fear can have you wild’n out and lost; trying to compensate feeling like a failure or anything of the sort.
Here are 25 ways to avoid living your life on someone else’s terms. I will put the link below so you can read them all. Here are 3 that I thought were interesting:
Choose Learning and Growing, Not Entertainment and Distraction
“Your level of success will rarely exceed your level of personal development, because success is something you attract by the person you become.” -Hal Elrod
Your income, relationships, and success are determined by your learning.
Most people spend more money on entertainment and gadgets than self-education. This is why they remain poor and broke with superficial relationships.
The quality of your learning and how much you invest in yourself directly determines the extent of your growth.
Work Through Your Emotional Crap
You have to read the author’s story about being addicted to pornography! It’s pretty solid. Here is a blurp to what he wrote:
Most people let their wounds dictate their lifestyle.
But this is just an excuse. If you want to avoid living on someone else’s terms, then resolve your crap. Your relationships, finances, self-esteem, career, and health will all improve because of this.
If You Must Use Social Media, Only ALLOW “Human” Notifications
f you simply must use social media — it’s your job, you run a business on it, etc. — then only turn on “human” notifications on your device.
Most people are slaves to push notifications, that long list of “alerts!” and “updates” on their home screen. By default, most apps are set up to notify you, often with colorful signs and that little red dot. The problem is, almost no notifications come from actual “humans” — friends and family connecting with you.
Don’t be a slave to emails, reminders, advertising, or other non-human notifications. If you must use these apps, ensure the only notifications you’re getting came from real people you know.
As promised, here is the link for further reading! It’s pretty amazing. Please, enjoy …