Rather your male or female, all relationships require sacrifice. But the thing I don’t understand — how come it seems like one of the persons’ in the relationship get the brunt of the responsibility? In other words, one individual will wound up sacrificing more than the other. This being the case —- is it “true” love? It takes sacrifice to be in a committed relationship hands down! Is there a such thing as equal adjustments? Maybe it’s a misnomer that partners offset each other’s strengths and weaknesses, whereas, I thought they went hand in hand.
Have you been in that situation of constantly being the one to sacrifice (adjust) and your partner never seems to take lead? I have! Numerous of times. Frankly, I’m tired of it. I want to be covered just as much as he does. And NOT because I’m a woman! Gosh, I hate that. I’m not this weakling who needs rescuing for everything. No! I just want a balance where he sacrifices just like me. So, I think I have the reason to why this continues to happen in our relationships.
To whom much is given much more is required!
Do you despise this statement? Well, it’s true rather you like it or not. If you naturally take lead it’s ALWAYS going to be that way. This doesn’t lessen the other person it just compliments the relationship. It is soooooo vital that you understand what stands out: naturally leading and complimenting the relationship. If you’re not a leader it’s quite obvious. You don’t have the wherewithal to use what you know wisely to bring the relationship to it’s best! Don’t lie! Be honest. If you know your partner is better at it, don’t argue with it. Accept it, in fact, right now!! It doesn’t make you less than. Again, IT DOESN’T MAKE YOU LESS THAN!! Some are just natural born leaders. They have the wisdom and poise to handle situations. Do they fall? Absolutely. They’re not perfect. They are usually dependable and they, usually, tend toward sacrificing the most. Complimenting the relationship — because this natural ability exist they will ensure that the relationship stays in tact. Believe me, these natural born leaders can be a pain in the butt too. They sometimes go to far; become narcissistic punks who don’t know how to humble themselves.
I must reiterate again. You are not less than if you are not the natural born leader. You are very important in the relationship. Without you there is no relationship! Don’t let a “leader” tell you other wise. Remember, strengths and weaknesses offset each other. You have to sacrifice just like your partner because of those offsets. If both people were the same, the likelihood is they will breakup!
Which one are you? Need some tips to fully understand this concept? Let me know. I’ve been learning a lot in this area!
PS … I gotta add. I know some think commonality is the same to what I’m talking about. Nope! Wrong! Having something in common is a portion to the functionality of a relationship. And because I know some will argue that point … if both of you are leaders, one will still dominate over the other! It’s just how it goes!