Relational Bondage?

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We face relationship issues all the time. Be it with a spouse, child, boss, coworker, friend, etc., it’s an ongoing problem that arises! Such moments can sometimes feel like a weight instead of a stretching of ourselves. Yes! A stretch. Who wants to be stretched when we’re already feeling bound by problems with folk? I know I don’t. I’d rather the problem pass and I get the chance to move on. But, we’re likely missing the importance.

Any abuse … GET OUT RIGHT NOW!! That’s not bondage. That’s a dire need to leave the situation. I know oftentimes that some believe they will die at the hands of their abuser, but if you consider the magnitude and this is true … wouldn’t it be better to take the risk to leave (saving yourself) and give yourself a fighting chance than to stay? I didn’t say it would be easy but there are tons a ways to get away! The first step is to decide! Next step is to come up with a plan! Notice I didn’t say just leave. NO! You first come up with a plan (ask a trusted loved one who is on board) then you act!

Okay, let’s get to it …

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I believe this concept can apply to those who are not Christian. The only reason is because there is understanding we all need! There is a standard in life that calls for respect! We all need it and must give it every chance we can get! Again, wisdom is the PRINCIPLE thing! It will guide you in the steps taken:

*Wives, be {The wife is to submit voluntarily to her husband (not to men in general); not as inferior to him, nor in violation of her Christian ethics, but honoring her husband's responsibilities and authority as head of the household.} subject to your husbands [out of respect for their position as protector, and their accountability to God] as is proper and {i.e. not in conflict with Scripture.} fitting in the Lord.
*Husbands, love your wives [with an affectionate, sympathetic, selfless love that always seeks the best for them] and do not be embittered or resentful toward them [because of the responsibilities of marriage].
*Children, obey your parents [as God's representatives] in all things, for this [attitude or respect and obedience] is well-pleasing {as in the Lord's presence} to the Lord [and will bring you God's promised blessings].
*Fathers {this is established as both parents} do not provoke or irritate or exasperate your children [with demands that are trivial or unreasonable or humiliating or abusive; nor by favoritism or indifference; treat them tenderly with loving-kindness] so they will not lose heart and become discouraged or unmotivated [with their spirits broken].

*Whatever you do [whatever your task may be] work from the soul [that is, put in your very best effort] as [something done] for the Lord and not for men,
*Knowing [with all certainty] that it is from the Lord [not from men] that you will receive the inheritance which is your [greatest] reward.
It is the Lord Christ whom you [actually] serve.
*For he who does wrong will be punished for his wrongdoing, and [with God] there is no partiality [no treatment based on a person's position in life].
Colossians 3:18-21; 23-25 (AMP - Amplified version)

There’s only one way to end this …

Blessed [with spiritual security] is the man who believes and trusts in and relies on the Lord And whose hope and confident expectation is the Lord.
Jeremiah 17:7 (AMP)
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Reflections such as these will always be a self examination! We won’t always like what we learn, however, it will be for the betterment of ourselves and for the relationships we hold dear!

Follow Your Dream

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Are you sure about that?

This is an interesting phrase! How do you follow your dream? There are so many help books out there to help lead us in the “right” direction to making our dreams come true, but I find a slight dilemma in such a concept. Authors are making millions sharing tips {kind of like the bloggers who have proven their method works because they have a ton of followers to prove it} to get us there but isn’t this mere self testimony and nothing more? Or … are there steps to becoming?!

So, I had to look it up and here’s one …

Here are 7 steps to start following your dreams right now:

  1. Awaken your true self. All our life we run after the things that are not even close to our heart. …
  2. Never underestimate your potential. …
  3. Do not wait too long. …
  4. Have a positive perspective. …
  5. Fake it until you make it. …
  6. Use your time well. …
  7. Overcome fear of failure.
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7 Steps To Immediately Start Following Your Dreams
https://www.motivationalmemo.com › 7-steps-to-immediately-start-following…

Allow me to dissect these 7 things …

  1. Awaken your true self. All our life we run after things that are not even close to our heart. — I agree that we need to know who we are! This is without argument. Many times we get lost in the shuffle because we are assuming what isn’t, is. We have to be honest that we’re left handed and stop acting like we are right! The only faux pas about this concept is the “choosing that thing that’s dear to our hearts.” There’s a few people I know who believe they should be the next Michael Jackson or Whitney Houston. They have not reached such famed and they have a slue of reasons to why this hasn’t happened. Maybe the truth is, just because they bear some type of skill (and it’s closer than the clothes they put on) doesn’t mean they are the ones chosen to be stars. This would be a farce to a degree.
  2. Never underestimate your potential. — I agree! In this case my only discrepancy would be if you don’t realize your full potential. Sometimes people assume a person is lazy or not ambitious enough to be the “go getter”but that’s not always the case. Sometimes, and I’m serious, a person has the slightest idea. If you’re not ambitious that makes you lazy? If you’re more an introvert that makes you less? I disagree! It’s not for everybody will tend toward all of these.
  3. Do not wait too long. — What does this mean exactly? Doesn’t every dream take time? The fallacy behind this is there are so many people chasing and falling short believing it’s never gonna happen because so much time has passed by. Thomas Edison didn’t achieve the goal on one try. IT TOOK TIME! If this concept has an underlining meaning then there should have been more explanation. And, once again, what it takes for me may not take the same time for you!
  4. Have a positive perspective! — Now, this one has no arguments! No matter how many times we fall we have to get back up and try again. Realization of the truth must be first then we can follow the plan given for us to follow!
  5. Fake it until you make it. — This is funny right here. A friend of mine told me his Dad told him that just because he’s not rich doesn’t mean he shouldn’t look like it. There’s some truth to this. When going on a job interview the way you carry yourself matters; save it’s not required to be dressed up. But there’s a problem! I guess this is where a person goes into detail of what this statement means. Faking it until you make it can go awry. The illusion can start becoming a person’s reality. Do authors who write this stuff take into consideration that every type will read their material believing they can follow these steps and become? This stuff can become scrambled to a person unable to handle reality. I’m trying to be as careful as possible. A malfunctioned mind won’t be able to do this! Period!!
  6. Use your time well. — This is self explanatory!
  7. Overcome fear of failure. — A question come to mind. Is failure defined by the individual or the obstacle(s)? I ask this because if I go to an interview and the interviewer tells me I’m not qualified, and this happens 3 more times, should I believe them? This would tie into numbers 1, 2 and 3. I stand firm that you can’t allow failure to take hold. You must get through them! My only concern would be if the lessons I (or you) are learning doesn’t fall into the category we are going for isn’t it time to give up that dream and move onto the next?! Please, I’d like to know.
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Following a your dream can be tricky. Those trying to help make a world of difference. I know they can’t cover every nuisance out there; the book would be too long and heavy (lol). It just seems like writing (or means of aide tools) should be about discovering you you are with some tips of possibilities. But … am I wrong not seeing a grander picture?!

Please, I’m always wanting to know!!

Looking Deeper — Mental Illness

Since the discovery of mental illness seems to be increasing, I thought it suitable to do some type of research. Remember, knowledge is key! It doesn’t prevent us from suffering whatever illness or disease we my acquire, however, it helps us handle it better! It’s not just for us but for our loved ones! Happy mental reading!!

Mental illnesses, in general, are thought to be caused by a variety of genetic and environmental factors: Inherited traits. Mental illness is more common in people whose blood relatives also have a mental illness. Jun 8, 2019

Can mental illness run in the family? Scientists have long recognized that many psychiatric disorders tend to run in families, suggesting potential genetic roots. Such disorders include autism, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), bipolar disorder, major depression and schizophrenia. March 18, 2013

Where does mental illness come from? As with cancer, diabetes and heart disease, mental illnesses are often physical as well as emotional and psychological. Mental illnesses may be caused by a reaction to environmental stresses, genetic factors, biochemical imbalances, or a combination of these. What Is Mental Illness – What Are The Signs – Mental Health America
https://www.mentalhealthamerica.net › recognizing-warning-signs

What triggers mental illness? What Psychological Factors Contribute to Mental Illness?

  • Severe psychological trauma suffered as a child, such as emotional, physical, or sexual abuse.
  • An important early loss, such as the loss of a parent.
  • Neglect.
  • Poor ability to relate to others.

May 20, 2018Causes of Mental Illness – WebMD
https://www.webmd.com › mental-health › mental-health-causes-mental-illness

Can mental health be cured? Most people diagnosed with a mental health condition can experience relief from their symptoms and live a satisfying life by actively participating in an individualized treatment plan. An effective treatment plan may include medication, psychotherapy and peer support groups. Can people recover from mental illness? Is there a cure? | NAMI …
https://www.nami.org › FAQ › General-Information-FAQ › Can-people-reco…

Does anxiety get worse as you get older? Anxiety May Increase With Age. … Because the stresses of health problems, losses and and other major life changes build up as we get olderwe tend to become anxious. Some surveys suggest that one in five older adults suffer anxiety symptoms that require treatment.Aug 9, 2010Anxiety May Increase With Age | Live Science
https://www.livescience.com › 8452-anxiety-increase-age
Search for: Does anxiety get worse as you get older?

Is anxiety genetic?Most researchers conclude that anxiety is genetic but can also be influenced by environmental factors. In other words, it’s possible to have anxiety without it running in your family. June 27, 2019 Is Anxiety Genetic? What Causes Anxiety and How to Feel Better
https://www.healthline.com › health › mental-health › is-anxiety-genetic
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What happens if mental illness is not treated? Untreated depression increases the chance of risky behaviors such as drug or alcohol addiction. It also can ruin relationships, cause problems at work, and make it difficult to overcome serious illnesses. Clinical depression, also known as major depression, is an illness that involves the body, mood, and thoughts.Aug 17, 2017 Side Effects of Untreated Depression – WebMD
https://www.webmd.com › depression › guide › untreated-depression-effects
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How do you beat a mental illness? How to look after your mental health

  1. Talk about your feelings. Talking about your feelings can help you stay in good mental health and deal with times when you feel troubled. …
  2. Keep active. …
  3. Eat well. …
  4. Drink sensibly. …
  5. Keep in touch. …
  6. Ask for help. …
  7. Take a break. …
  8. Do something you’re good at.

More items…How to look after your mental health | Mental Health Foundation
https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk › publications › how-to-mental-health

KATch-UP Mondays: Are We Crazy?

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I had an interesting weekend. I had to take my car to the shop because my brake light has been coming on. The emergency brake to be exact. It’s common that it would come on when first turning on the car but, once running, it doesn’t come on unless while parked I push it for use. Unfortunately, lately it has been coming on rather I stop at a stop sign or light. It’s on and off sustaining for about 10 secs or more while driving. This is strange so, I had to do what we do … I googled (lol).

We are creatures of habit. There’s good and bad points being this way. It is how we learn: like our ABCs. We also use it to research. I think I’ve mentioned this before when the doctor said to stop googling conditions, but, to me, this is both good and bad! We go to purchase over-the-counter medicines all the time when we think we have a cold or flu; a wrap or sports cream for a sprain ankle. It’s what we do. So, when I googled about the brake light it said it could be either: the pressure of a tire, the fluid is low and needs replacing/filling, or brakes can be worn.

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I took it in and told them the problem. After about 30 to 45 minutes (also got an oil change) my name was called and told me the brakes were fine. But this couldn’t be possible. I saw my light come on. I even had my Dad look at it and he witnessed it himself. How can this be? Am I crazy? Did the light come on or am I making this up?

I’ve had these types of things happen before. I say something and another is trying to convince me otherwise, but I know I didn’t make it up. So, why does it seem like I do? The troubling thing about this morning’s blog is, first, I know I’m not crazy. The brake light came on and, as stated earlier, my Dad saw it. The mechanic said to bring the car back in if the light comes on again and they will do a full inspection. The other thing is mental illness runs in my family. To my knowledge I’m fine, but it has left me to wonder.

Are there tests out there that can be taken to prove rather or not it exists? I assume there are considering psychiatrists diagnose mental patients, but this notion is based off certain signs. I guess I’m not showing those signs!

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But … aren’t we?!

Blog Fridays: “The Company We Keep”

Where we are mentally is in constant need of address. I was talking to a few people about this very thing yesterday. It’s so easy to become blindsided in life and start to veer off into lala land; thankfully, we each have someone (more than one) who will bring us back to reality! I hope this write inspires you to see what, perhaps, is going on within! Question is: will we listen?

Written by Katherine Matthews

Where My Head Is

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How clearly the sky reveals God's glory! ... 
How plainly it shows what He has done!
Each day announces it to the following day; ...
each night repeats it to the next.
No speech or words are used, no sound is heard; ...
yet their message goes out to all the world ...
and is heard to the ends of the earth.
God made a home in the sky for the sun;
it comes out in the morning like a happy bridegroom, ...
like an athlete eager to run a race.
It starts at one end of the sky and goes across to the other. ...
Nothing can hide from its heat.
Psalm 19:1-6 {GNTD -- Good News Translation}
How much longer will Your anger last? ...
Have pity, O Lord, on Your servants!
Fill us each morning with Your constant love, ...
so that we may sing and be glad all our life.
Give us now as much happiness as the sadness ...
You gave us during all our years of misery.
Let us, Your servants, see Your mighty deeds; ...
let our descendants see Your glorious might.
Lord our God, may Your blessings be with us. ...
Give us success in all we do!
Psalm 90:13-17 {GNTD}
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I wait patiently for God to save me; ...
I depend on Him alone.
He alone protects and saves me; ...
He is my Defender, and I shall never be defeated.
My salvation and honor depend on God; ...
He is my Strong Protector; He is my Shelter.
Trust in God at all times, my people. ...
Tell Him all your troubles, for He is our Refuge
Psalm 62:1-2; 7 & 8 {GNTD}
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In A Word — “We Can’t!”

As I reflect the morning’s phrase I am disheartened that you or me can’t! This seems rather obvious, but when ability is present there are numerous possibilities. So, what can’t be done? Why can’t it? It’s imperative we understand that just because we have the ability to do something does not mean the fulfillment of that ability will come to fruition. But how is this possible?

This simple, and yet disturbing, truth is we face people with choices. This may seem redundant considering I posted about our choices and how we choose based off another’s choice, but in this instance it’s bothersome when it’s a personal cost. Each of us has a drive to help someone; even if that someone is ourselves. I noticed in trying to help others I presumed they would willingly take whatever was being offered. Foolishness on my part and, I’d gather, even yours. PLUG … admit this truth that you presumed too!

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We can’t help everybody! I know that is cliche but it’s more than that to me. Just as the presumption, there is a thought that things happen for a reason. Maybe therein lies a problem; a tendency to think there’s some underlining importance to coming in contact with those who cross our path for more than a moment.

When I met Folder (a name presumably no one has lol) I wasn’t for sure what would come of it. As time progressed I saw a need that I could fill. The ability presented itself so, I weighed the wisdom and took the opportunity. But, progression showed me that no matter what I tried it didn’t dent the problem. If anything it seemed like it worsened. I guess that’s where a little faith comes in. We may not see results in the moment but, perhaps, whatever was done will pan out in the end!

I don’t know, I’m torn on this one. I find myself wanting to help someone who, clearly, has rejected the precision of my words and has discombobulated them to mean something that doesn’t exist. I’ve been told to let it go, yet, obviously, haven’t. It’s not a constant thought, however, it has crossed my mind this morning.

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What’s your take? When is the time to let go a situation? I was done years ago but the “issue” continues to rear its head!